Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Romans 12:12
I have entered yet another transitional season of my life. This one seems extremely different than the first time around. I completed my graduate program in May and earned an MA in Counseling emphasis on Mental Health. Though I am extremely proud of my accomplishments, I am constantly asking: Where did the time go? I was literally in Kindergarten yesterday and now I’m officially out here in the world. Everything seems to be happening so fast. I have no idea what I’m doing and where I’ll end up next. Yet, that is the very question that I keep hearing now that I have graduated.
“So what do you want to do now?
“Are you going for your doctorate?”
“Do you have a job lined up?”
“Where are you going to live?”
Response in my head/Quote of the season: “I’m just tryna get my life together!”
Of course I give them a smile and say my spiel about going for my license, getting an intern number, and looking for a PAID position. All of which definitely won’t happen overnight. It’s a PROCESS!
On the other hand, I have also entered the season of my life where weddings, house housewarmings, and baby showers are main events.
You couldn’t tell me at sixteen that I wouldn’t be married to a chocolate King at 25 with my Benz, bomb two-story house, and Teacup Yorkie safely tucked away in my purse.
They say if you want to make God laugh, tell Him your plans.
Now that reality has SLAPPED me upside the head – I have to re-align my focus. This season has been rough. As my homegirl SZA sings, “Prayin` these 20 something’s don’t kill me…” Ya girl was definitely onto something. [She.Gets.IT]
The #TwentySomethinStruggles have been filled with highs and lows. Discontentment has settled in. It seems like everything is falling apart and I’m left picking up the pieces alone. I’m starting from scratch and it’s honestly terrifying. I can’t deal.
To top it off – social media has a way of ruining lives and I mean that in the most honest way. It’s the comparison complex. People post highlights of their lives and you instantly think that what you’re doing isn’t good enough. You haven’t made it to that next level, so you aren’t doing anything with your life. When in reality this isn’t true.
Everyday (literally) I see a new engagement post, proposal videos, job offers, new cars, new apartments, new homes, etc. It can be discouraging because of course I long for those things too.
I envision myself owning a home.
I envision myself being a wife.
I envision myself working in my career, excelling, and being the essence of Black Girl Magic!
I envision myself running my Non-Profit organization and helping the children of the world.
I envision myself becoming one of the Black Mental Health therapist to look out for!
I can see it so clearly!
Weekly phone calls with my sista circle consists of:
“I just saw another engagement post!” *inserts the distressed face emoji*
“So and so is pregnant”
“Girl, he bought a HOUSE!”
“Can we skip to our 30s when we’re flourishing, with our husbae’s?”
“I should be happy at this age, but I’m not”
Someone PLEASE tell me your secrets.
How are y’all living the dream life at 25 and 26?
The good thing is I know that I am not alone. The quarter life crisis is a real thing, and the vast majority of my friends and others in my age group share my pain.
Whenever I have these thoughts the Holy Spirit steps in and reminds me that, it’s not your season yet. My season will come, but in the meantime I have to prepare for the blessing. That means I need to continue to work on me, so that I can be the best version of myself when the time comes. I must trust the process of this journey. Ultimately, I should be looking for the lessons and blessings in disguise throughout this moment of my life. Nothing that occurs in our lives are by chance, it’s all apart of the master plan that God has set for each and every one our our lives.
How are you handling this season of your life?